Thursday, April 23, 2020

Our Happier New Normal

I don’t want life to go back to “normal”

I’m sitting here thinking of how our days looked a few months ago. I worked 40 hours a week at my day job and 30 plus hours at my ministry job. I would run in and out of the garage door dropping my things and then running to the next thing. It was barely keeping clothes clean, while running to the store throwing things in a basket, making mediocre meals that if we were lucky we sat down to eat. All the while home educating two boys, keeping up with all the family birthdays and Sunday gatherings. My phone never stopped ringing, the texts, the calls and the e mails. I never felt I was doing anything well. I was surviving. Barely.

I remember when things started closing down and my 20-year-old son said, “They will never close down my job.” It was 48 hours later that he was told his place of employment was closed. My son-in-love was suddenly teaching high school remotely. My daughter was working from home and remote schooling her son. Another daughter was moving and promoting her small business. Everything changed. Not just for our family but for America. Life came to a fast halt. We were home. Offices and schools were now in our family rooms and dining room tables. Sundays were church on the couch via live stream. We as a family were all face to face in the same space for the first time in a long time. It was real. Some days have been very hard. I can speak for myself that a lot of my friends have posted all the great home improvements and projects they have completed. Many people have started a new hobby, reading, or learning a new skill. While all of these accomplishments and skills are amazing, I have learned some different things.

I learned my 20-year-old son loves his job and his coworkers. I know that my oldest really enjoys her husband remotely working as their two young girls enjoy daddy at home.  I saw my senior in high school keep up with his college classes, job, and horse. I saw that senior stress firsthand.  I’m amazed at my daughter, who started a new job about 9 months ago, take her skills home and keep her job duties at home from 9-5 while remote schooling her Kindergarten son. I’ve seen another daughter move, adjust life, and promote her business with her husband. The youngest two boys have kept up with homeschool with all of this swirling around them. It certainly has been a challenging time.

 However, it’s all the changes that truly brought a wonderful vibe back to all of our lives. We now eat dinner together. The “High- Low” chat at the table was the throw back. Each person at the table shares the highest and lowest moment of the day. This led to some funny family memories of years past that we all roar over.  Monopoly has ruled the night. Mario Kart parties have been reborn. Puzzles have been made. Uno came back. Yard work was done. Campfires with s’mores and great conversation. Grown kids helped with moving, birthdays, and calls to support one another. I realized things I otherwise wouldn’t have in this stillness of home. We were together. We were talking. Laughter returned. We had one another. We pulled together.

I hope that things don’t return to normal. This time together has been an incredible blessing. If we have learned anything it is that we all need to lean on one another. That the simple times are the best times. It turns out that we still like to talk, play, and hang out without any particular reason. This is the rainbow in these scary times of uncertainty. I am grateful and thankful and blessed for all these moments. I truly pray that our entire world takes a step back and doesn’t return to the old “normal”. The old normal was the most socially distant our family has ever been. It took a pandemic to get our attention and pull us back in. We are closer today than we have been in years.

Thank you to all who work on the front lines of this corona virus. The health care workers, first responders and essential workers.  A personal shout out to my Costco family at 1160 Easton. We are all so grateful for everyone lending a hand. Take care of your neighbor. Be kind in all you do, and I pray you are safe and healthy.
Always for life,
Kambra